The dissolution of a relationship leaves many scars. The fear of rejection is a common scar left after the ending of a meaningful relationship. It can leave one emotionally immobilized, stagnated, depressed and lead to self-destructive, self-defeating irrational behaviors, and regression. Share with us, how you think one can learn to overcome their fear of rejection and be open again to engage in current and future relationships.
Short answer: I get by with a little help from my friends.
ReplyDeleteLong answer: Your friends and hobbies build self esteem. They're going to one, make you forget your old loved one, and two, it will remind you of all the things you like about yourself, and all the things people like about you.
After ending an relationship I usually look to the future and try not to look backwards. I do not blame myself for what happened and learn to look at the relationship as a lesson learned. In order to face rejection I start off by just dating again or hanging out then when I feel comfortable I get the strength to make my move to the next person.. Everyone is liked and will find love from someone..think positive
ReplyDeleteI think a good strategy to overcome the fear of rejection, is to reflect about the things and hobbies you use to have before the relation that just ended up. So, the selfesteem will come back when you find out you are good doing many things, and you are very worthy person.
ReplyDeleteIt is important not tho blame your self for the disolution, but try to be better person each day, take advantage of the time you have free, and be happy having new friends, learning new things (like a language, painting, new exercise, learn to play an instrument, be closer to God, read the Bible and positive books. In this way, renewing your life, you will lose the fear of rejection and give an opportunity to be happy in your life.
The single most helpful action that i've seen others use after a break-up was complete closure. It is almost impossible to move on to a new relationship, without first getting through all the stages of closure after the previous one.
ReplyDeleteI think you have to start back with you to get over a tough breakup. You have to find yourself again. Go back to the things that you had previously compromised. Pick up your favorite hobbies, learn something new, spend that quality time with your family and friends that you had missed out. Discover what is it that caused the downfall in your past, create a list of standards that you require in your future mate and stick to them. Or as they say "if you're scared, go to church"!!!
ReplyDeletei think the best way to get over a hard break up and try to move on is to start doing the things that you like to do and that you are good at. i think that will build your self esteem back up and most importantly your confidence. Once you are feeling confident about yourself again, then you can begin to approach others and begin socializing again.
ReplyDeleteGetting back on your feet after a serious relationship is a hard thing to do. Some people take only a few days to get back in the dating game and other years. I can remember after breaking up with my ex, it took me some time to convince myself that it was ok to start dating again. I can say form experience that one of my main fears where being rejected when I tried to approach a girl. However the one thing that I can tell another that fears rejection after a break up is “Just try”. There will be those who you can walk up to and will hold a conversation with and those who want nothing to do with you. Just keep trying, go out with your close friends and have fun. Majority of the time that’s when you meet that someone you become attracted to. But keep in mind, more time than none you will be shot down then flagged down. Also take in to consideration, the more confidence you have the better you’re results will be…lol...
ReplyDeleteOne needs to give time to her/himself! Turning back to the people who make you feel secure and yourself might help as well.
ReplyDeleteAnd just in case, you get in a new relationship: just be honest and tell your significant other you've been really hurt! Again, give time to yourself!!
I honestly feel like the best way to overcome a breakup is by getting someone new. This makes it much easier.
ReplyDeleteI just think the best way to overcome rejection is by getting involved in activities that will occupie alot of your time and help you take your mind off things. Also having good friends helps alot too. As far as entering new relationships aftwards....I think it's best to forget about the past and learn to move on.
ReplyDeleteI believe you must very clearly tell yourself...."it is over, now move on!"...say it out loud if you need to. When I say move on, I don't necessarily mean to another person. What I am sure of is that you have to get back to everyday life, family, friends and even work. I personally have found it best not to go looking for someone to fix what may have been broken by the last relationship. Take some time for yourself and just allow the next relationship to come to you naturally.
ReplyDeleteRejection made me stronger. I like to prove people wrong. I was told I would never accomplish much in life and up until now I think I have done pretty good. To handle rejection you have to have the inner strength to let sticks and stones roll off your back. If the situation didn't kill you it only proves there is a purpose for you to keep going on.
ReplyDeleteWell it all starts with your base: Do you have a positive base?
ReplyDeleteFriends and family can lift you up, while they put your ex down. lol
Then general info: Do you know that rejection happens a lot and to everyone?
I'm oblivious to relationship stuff and I generally rely on Savage Love pod w/ Dan Savage or the Slog. The advice he tends to lend to women is pretty spot on, he's a good gay. lol
He tends to say over and over, rejection happens till it doesn't one day.
Well i think it all depends on how the relationship ended. If you were the person who got dumped then for sure your self esteem is shot to hell. So then you would have to go back to basics and develop a self and confidence to believe in yourself and know that you're beautiful. If you were the other person who did the dumping your self esteem isn't as damaged and I would still take sometime to reflect and try to better myself. Then just go out into the world and be yourself and have fun.:)So what if everyone isn't opened for engagement.
ReplyDeleteI KNOW that the best way to handle this is to put faith in the people you have in your life and trust them to help you get through a tough time. Whether it be your friends or your family its important not to try and carry it all on your shoulders. Its easy to just fall apart and find reasons why its your fault and why people dont like you but if you are around people who love you and enjoy your company they will help you realize that there is more to life and something to move on to. Yeah i also think its harder for people who get broken up with after a long term relationship but It can also affect the breaker upper just as bad and they can have just as hard a time putting themselves back out there and returning to normal.
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