We are all familiar with the saying, "Money can't buy you happiness". However, a recent Gallup poll shows that the number one issue that causes problems in relationships today is cha-ching....MONEY, MONEY,MONEY, MONEY! Other studies show that couples that deem themselves "poor" are more likely to end in divorce than financially healthy families. Post your views on the topic. Does money make you happier?
Well I have never been in a relationship to where me and the other person depend on each other finacial wise, but I have had friends and I can honestly say that money issues does cause problems (depending on the individuals). One reason is that when you are strapped for cash, then you have to prioritize more than you normally would. Alot of times you will have to make choices or what to spend and what not to spend and thats were problems set in. On person may feel it's necessary to have one thing, while their spouse thinks its a waste of money. This leads to arguements, which in turn leads to problems that normally wouldn't come up if they had more money.
ReplyDeleteAt the same time, all the money in the world can't make a person who is unhappy to begin with, happy in the relationship. So in a nutshell, Money doesn't bring happiness, but the lack of it can cause problems.
In the past relationships I had, we did not end because of money. When I get in a relationship I do not worry about how much the other person makes. I look at it as if I know that the person can take care of himself financially(does not have to be rich)then our relationship is fine. The relationship I am in now started off with my mate not having any money and I did the dates and gifts on holidays..some holidays he did find a way to get me a gift but I just liked the fact that he was in my presents.Most people complained about him not spoiling me but I am not the kind of person that needs to be spoiled by her man. I dont even depend on my man. In the relationship we work together to pay things and take turns but we are happy because of the love for each other, not the money. I do not believe that money buys happiness because it is materialistic.. yes you need money to survive in this economy but you do not need money to be happy.. most people think you do because you are able to buy anything, wants and needs..
ReplyDeleteI do not feel as is money can make you happy, however i do believe that having money could make a relationship more stable and less stressful. I agree with the studies that money makes a relationship happier.
ReplyDeleteI believe that money is what can cause or relieve quite a bit of stress in every person's life. I have experienced a past relationship where the person had money but used it very irresponsibly - so much that when it came down to it I had to take care of their expenses or necessities and I felt as if I could not count on the other person to hold their own. It did cause quite a bit of arguments. I think that money can help accomplish many wants and needs.
ReplyDeleteMoney can bring you physiological comfort. But not psychological comfort necessarily, unless maybe you satisfy the most basic of needs.
ReplyDeleteBut I suppose satisfying the need for a safe environment in Maslow's hierarchy of needs can be make you more likely to be happy.
Physicologial<Safety<Love<Esteem<Self-actualization.
Without the security in finances personal connections are torn down.
When it came to my past relationships it was my partners issues with money. Being a single mother, I learned to budget and do without things others just aren't able to live without. (or they think they can't) A phone for instance, I lived without for quite awhile. As to where others just had to have a phone to function. I did without electricity and water at times. Money made my life alittle easier, but didn't make me happier. I was more relieved that I could give my children another day with the necessacities they needed. Not being able to give my children the little extras other kids got just made us a closer family. We did things as a family that really didn't need funds to be able to do.
ReplyDeleteWell, I was raised to not depend financialy 100% on my partner. So, for example in 2008 I was getting into a depression because I didn't have a job. I couldn't afford an ice-cream!! That was so sad! My partner never complained, he knew, like I did, that it was just a phase and I would get a job soon. He never, ever, opposed to help me, he used to say that if the situation was different, I would do the same! He was right. We are both hardworking people!!!
ReplyDeleteSo we wouldn't wait for the right job to pay the bills! We would work at any place to have the bills paid while apllying for the dream job! :)
In a relationship, it's healthy to be able to have money to "your" things... useful or not!
i guess depends how you use money. If it is for a good cause like helping others, they are most likely to be happie and thankful. If you use it for a selfish thing you wont be satisfied and it would just be stuck in your mind that your so worried about miney. in a relationship i think both the person should agree on how to control the money not let it controll you.
ReplyDeleteummm well i'm not gonna lie money helps me be happy, some of the things i love doing needs money. I can find happiness in simplicity as well, I can enjoy myself doing something free like going to a park or hanging out with friends. I can see why money creates so much stress though, we live in a society where you need money to function in a normal life and if those needs are meant then of course it's gonna lead to stress. And who needs that womp womp!
ReplyDeleteWhile "money can't buy happiness", it can buy the things that relieve tons of stress in our lives. Most women want/need security from a relationship and having the money to pay bills, buy groceries, ect, and support the relationship will keep that stress off her. Men, on the other hand sometimes feel that they HAVE to be the provider in a relationship, and doing so removes the stress and tension there. Money can't buy happiness... but it sure does help.
ReplyDeleteI AM SORRY GUYS BUT YES!!! having money makes alot of things easier if you are in the right relationship. its not going to guarantee happiness but when you are not stressing out about being able to pay your bills it really does take a load off your shoulders. Relationships are already hard enough as it is, and when you are financially unstable it really does affect your relationship. So money could POTENTIALLY buy you happiness...
ReplyDeleteI don’t think that money make you happy. Happiness is a feeling that comes to you when you are with friends, family or the one’s you love. Money to me is just an object that in hard times can help keep the happiness alive. Has a physical object, money does not make you happy. It’s what you do with the money is what brings you happiness. Whither it is buying a new car for yourself or taking a Hawaiian cruse with the one you love, money is just an object. BUT IT’S NEVER BAD TO HAVE ALITTLE.
ReplyDeletemoney does not make you happy i know this for a fact. my father gave us everything in life we ever wanted( but a go-cart and my 56,000 college bill haha)and i would have traded it all for him to spend more time with us and be more involved. yes he was there but i had to ask him to be there for everything but i can not complain he was and still is a great father. i think the reason why people would say yes money makes them happy is because they never had a taste of it.. but i truly hate money beause it changes everyone.. i am fine with all my bills paid and going out once a week and one vaction a year.. it can only buy you material things..not happiness because the best times ive had were my we cant spend any moments..
ReplyDeleteI believe it depends more on how a person or couple invest their money. America has a recognized problem of living beyond its means. The number of households living paycheck to paycheck, regardless of the socio-economic status, is amazing. Priorities play a large role in money management. If it is a struggle to put food on the table and keep a roof over head, basic provisions take priority. This type of situation makes it difficult to save and accumulate a financial “cushion” or provide luxuries.
ReplyDeleteIt is also very possible to make enough that provides much more than necessities. Raising the temptation to “want” more than “need”, resulting in over extension; this again making it difficult, to put food on the table and keep the roof over head because too much is invested in assets. Living within one’s means is the key, to distribute investments, while maintaining the “cushion” of a nice savings account. This position may provide the opportunity to build experiences through travel and hobbies rather than possessions alone. People are more comfortable when they know they have security. In strenuous positions, people lash out, often at those closest to them. I know I am guilty of such behavior.
There have been extreme highs...and lows in my lifetime concerning money. Through all stages of my life and different relationships(short term and long) finances are a concern. Our society is money/commerce driven, this is a simple fact. Money can bring opportunity and also diversity.
ReplyDeleteThe constant pursuit to earn or spend money cannot consume every moment of a person's lifetime. Eventually, there are times of self evaluation in which we gauge our happiness. If your passion for life is money then there is the deciding factor. Money is not my passion in life.
Very interesting. Well Money doesn't buy love, with that said I would rather be with someone who I know is going to take care of me and love me for the rest of my life than be with someone just for the money because you and have all the money in the world and still feel lonely (esp. with the wrong partner). On the flip side of the coin, I've been in some tough money times with a broke boyf where I was the bread winner and they definitely can break a relationship and cause lots of resentment. I think its important tho to remember that we marry for richer or poorer. Life is a rollercoaster nothing is guaranteed. Money is necessary however in this world we live in and you gatta have some to be able to survive and to enjoy the nice things in life. I agree like some of my peers that it makes things easier.
ReplyDeleteMoney is... important but You don't want to let it make it who you are. if that makes sense. I grew up in a family without a lot of money and I knew it made a lot of things more difficult but in long run it humbled me and taught me what exactly to spend my money on. Like traveling, guitars, college, ladies...sometimes and things of that nature. Its important for me to make a good amount of money in my life to take care of my family and travel but I wont depend on making millions just to justify my life. I know there are a lot more important things going on that can benefit me a whole lot more.
ReplyDeleteMoney buys puppies. Puppies=happiness. Therefor, money buys happiness.
ReplyDeleteNext time you're at the beach and see some rich punk riding around on his jetski, see if he's crying. He probably isn't. Just saying.
In all seriousness though, money can buy happiness in the form of financial security, paying bills, and being able to live without worrying very highly about a budget.
I for one would be much happier if I could have my own home, pay it off fast, and pay the bills. I would be just fine with the kind of life I live now, if only there wasn't that worry.
I might not need the "rich" lifestyle, but money is always nice, isn't it?