The contact phase only lasts approximately 4-5 minutes. So you've only got a short amount of time to make a good first impression. Share with us your favorite pick-up strategies and experiences that you have either used or had used on you. Did any of them work? Why or why not?
Can I buy you a drink? This is perhaps the pick up line most commonly used on me....does it work? Enough to get my attention, at first at least. Hey I say if a guy has manners enough to buy you a drink, or can at least afford to, then we're on the right path. But, generally, I try not to go after guys that I meet in bars....with that being said, I've given out my number plenty of times, and not remembered much about the guy or he in turn, has never called. i guess thats why we should not be picking people up at bars. Other corney one or two-liners have got to go. Anyone who seriously says "I'm tired, I've been running after you all my life" or whatever things of that nature are just over the top and too much!
ReplyDeleteHmm. I in fact never once have used a line on somebody I didn't already know. I actually don't tend to try picking up girls at all.
ReplyDeleteI guess the closest thing I have to a line is "hello." Not that I haven't pulled off a few really corny lines, but they've always been people I already a first impression with.
yea im not a pick up line guy either. i am very shy when it comes to coming up to complete strangers and trying to spark a relationship but a really korny line im sure everyone knows is
ReplyDelete"baby you must be a broom cuz you just swept me off my feet" lol. gay i know.
sorry girls. i know they dont work anyways lol
Used:"That's cute."
ReplyDeleteAftermath:Chit Chat, nothing else.
Used:"Have you read this?"
Aftermath:Really good chit chat, too chicken to ask for a number though.
Used on me: "You come here often?"
Aftermath: I was neutral about that--but the guy was way older so no go for him.
Used on me: "I like that anime."
Afterthoughts: He was a super-geek--just...no. He went on about things in an awkward way so I had to jet.
Used on me:"You have any male friends?" and "I'm an Israeli."
Afterthoughts: WTH to the first one? And then the 2nd, I replied to with "are you Sephardic?" He was hood so totally stumped him. Let's never assume a girl's dumb and say whatever you feel like to impress her guys.
Well I have been out of the singles scene for a couple years now...However, It has allowed me to become more of a spectator, making it that much more entertaining. On my girlfriend’s birthday last year, we went out with some family and friends to the bars on Stone Oak.
ReplyDeleteI was kneeling down, having a great conversation with her sister (who was sitting due to painful high heels) when we noticed two men approaching my girlfriend, who was no more than 6 feet away. I do not consider myself a jealous boyfriend and wanted to see the transaction about to take place. Her sister and I had the biggest grins on our faces as the two men strolled to a stop between us. I believe it was then my girlfriend realized what was happening. The look of, "I don't know what to do!" was written all over her and her friend.
As one put his hand forward for a greeting handshake, he said, "So my friend and I think your pretty, and my friend wanted me to tell you he thinks you are really beautiful. But he is shy so he wanted me to tell you." This friend of his was almost standing behind him for the entire conversation. (What a good wingman he had)
My girlfriend told them, "Thank you, but you shouldn't be too shy to go tell a girl something like that."
"So who are you here with? Can my friend buy you a drink?"
"Well it is my birthday and I am here with my friends and my boyfriend" as she gestured in my direction.
They both turned to look at me and I think a bit surprised to see her sister and me both with giant grins on our faces already looking at them. I stood up to say hello and shake their hands. I was as cordial as possible, in no fashion or form did I want the guy who was already nervous, to never go up to a girl again... I wished them good luck on the next one and to have fun, they were pretty respectful and walked away. I almost wanted to buy them a drink and help the shy friend out too.
Later that night, I was waiting for my girlfriend outside the bathroom hallway. Playing with my phone and just looking around, I was very surprised when a woman almost yelled in my ear, “Your f***ing hot!” She made no effort to stop and talk but was moving quickly through the crowd with a group of her friends. I had no IDEA how to react to that…lol. Perhaps she thought I might follow her?
I really can't think of a time when I've used a pick up line on someone. I'm sure I would be absolutely horrible at it. As far as a strategy....I'm fairly outgoing and friendly so I guess I just like relationships to begin naturally not attached to some scripted line.
ReplyDeleteWhile working the graveyard shift at a convenience store I was having a casual conversation with a regular customer. We spoke regularly about all sorts of things. On this particular night we stepped outside to talk....I drank coffee while they puffed on a cigarette. We started to talk about favorite drinks and I shared that I enjoyed rum and coke. "You seem nice and I'd really like to take you out for a drink, I know a place where the crowd is really cool." I was caught off guard and felt a little ambushed......processing......I replied, "I like women, Gary." We had a little laugh about it and some time later he set me up with his niece who was staying with him that summer.
um..well I don't use pick up lines because I'm a girl! But whenever a guy does use them I just laugh it off and consider them silly and there in the "friend zone" after that. Of course its different if I'm with the guy already, but even then I still laugh them off.
ReplyDeleteThey usually try and guess my age and if they can't come within 4 years of my age they offer me a drink or take me to dinner. I have almost all pick lines there are but don't fall for them. Much to old to have someone try to use lines on me. One I use is can they handle 12 kids, because that's how many I have. If they don't get scared then I give them a chance and tell them the truth that I only have six kids. Even six could be scary. So if I say 12 and they don't run away there could be a chance.
ReplyDeleteI always try to be as natural as possible. But years ago I decided to flirt seriously with this man that called my attention at this nightclub. Well, I spent the whole night staring at him. Never really approched him. Eventually, when I went to the restroom, which was downstairs, and I saw him leaving. So on my way upstairs I decided that I would look back and if he was looking I would smile and sign good-bye! And that was exactly what happened and in two minutes the guy was back in the main floor and asked for my number. We went on few dates later.
ReplyDeleteumm the most strangest pick up line for me was when i just got back into town from a waterpark, we spend all day out there and i was ashey lol.. well we went to a causal place to eat and im setting down, like the blond i am, being the biggest dork talking to my friend. and i see this guy. not not my type i gave him the half smile lol..when i was eating he came in my face ah and told me u are the most beautiful, read this when i leave.. i was kinda freaked out but whatever.i saw him at the window and he waved to me! lol.. he had wrote me a note on the feedback to the restraunt with his number and info lol. even though it was kinda wierd, i was going to call him bc what he did not many men will do.. that caught my eye, he was not my type and but here i am writing about some random guy i do not even know. he must have done something right lol.. BUT i got busy and forgot to call, lost the paper.
ReplyDeleteWell, I have seen many people asking for the hour or talking about the weather so they can start a conversation. Also, smiling and saying hello!!! is many times a way to start speaking with somebody. I think, this strategies work most of the times, because a hello and a smile use to open hearts and help to begin a friendship. I use these strategies, smiling and saying hello and I get many friends every where.
ReplyDeleteWell..the pick up line most guys usually use is "you are the most beautiful girl I've ever seen..and you have a smile that any guy can admire" Usually when guys say this I smile and giggle.. then it leds to us talking about each other and asking questions getting to know one another. The wierdest one of all was when this guy came up to me while I was working at a waterpark handing out lockers and said "look at my lip" he had just busted his lip and came to show me...the funniest thing of it all is even though his lip was swollen, all I can notice was his really white teeth and becaue I am a smile and teeth girl.. I admired it and to this day we hang really tough..
ReplyDeletetypically, i just improvise in the moment, because then it is actually true and not too cheesy. i am attracted to a woman's style or hair or smile, so i elaborate on that. (being a female i have an upperhand as to not being so overbearing when giving a compliment).
ReplyDeletei have said things like "u have great hair.. ur eyebrows are so nice... i love ur shoes...", etc. immediately following the compliment and accompanying witty remark, i introduce myself, maybe get them a drink, then tell them i will see them later - then later they speak to me, numbers are exchanged, etc.
this honestly, has never NOT worked. lol i dont have an arsenal of come-ons but i like to think that i don't need them, it has worked just a-okay for me. bottom line is every woman likes someone who makes them laugh, so be original!
I've never been the pick up girls type. Any girl i've ever dated has either been a friend of a friend or i've had a friendship with them and things progressed to something more. Its not that I couldn't do it, but whenever I go out I can have a good time just sitting back and having some drinks with whoever im with or out on the dance floor just having a good time. Normally, if anything does happen its because im just keeping it mellow and having a good time and that attracts girls. So i let my friends stress about getting a number and making a play, and most of the time its me talking or dancing with a girl all night. SOOO just relax, be yourself and everything usually takes care of itself.
ReplyDeleteAt the age of forty-something, and married for ten of them, and engaged for three before that... I don't remember ANY pick-up lines I ever used. Even when I was still dating... twenty years ago, I don't think I ever used lines. But I didn't date much either.
ReplyDeletewell i've never used a pick up line. when i have something to say i will say it, when i see a guy that interest me i would simply go up to him and start talking about anything but ofcourse i start out with our names.
ReplyDeleteI can remember the funniest pick up moment I tried on a girl that…..REALY HURT! There was a girl that I liked standing next to a fence talking to some of her friends. The night before I was watching a movie that had the same situation, in the movie the man walked up to the girl lend on the fence with his hand and said something like “Hey gorgeous” or “You look so beautiful standing here in the sun light”. So I thought that I would try the same. So I walked up to the group and they all looked my way. I know that they were looking at me so I started to len on the fence. Will it turned out that the fence was electrical and right when I touched it I jumped about ten feet in the air and hit the ground. The bad part was that I burnt my hand really bad but the good part was that when I looked up all the girls that I walked up to trying to impress was now kneeling over me trying to help. :)
ReplyDeleteI can't remember the last line used on me but i know it didn't work because all my relationships evolved from friendships excepted for my current boyfriend who was a co-worker who i asked out...
ReplyDeleteOkay, Joey you win with the best entry this week! Ouch!!!! :)
ReplyDeletewell let's see I think the lamest pick up lines i've heard was of course the "You look like my future girlfriend" or something like that. I have been out of the dating scene awhile, and when I do go out i keep my distance from boys lol so i don't have to many lines that i can recall. No lines work though, for me it's going to take a lot more then a couple of words for me to be interested.
ReplyDeletepeople actually use pick up lines now n days? I never have and the closest thing I have done was when I didn't have alot of time to talk (for whatever reason) so I just wrote my name and number down and told the girl "you should give me call sometime"
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