As we study the development of relationships and you put together your self-concept game, I'm sure you are reflecting on people who have been significant in your life. This week's blog looks at friendships.
What makes a good friend? Trust? Shared interests? Emotional support? Acceptance? Tell us about someone who you consider to be a BFF. What qualities do they possess? Was there a pivotal event that strengthened your friendship?
what makes a good friend to me is definitely someone u can trust with anything you tell them, someone loyal, someone who will always tell you the truth no matter how harsh it might be, someone who will be there through the good and the bad, and someone who will support you no matter what. Shared interests are important too because if you cant have fun with your bf then its kind of hard cuz it might get boring. My best friends name is Adbee because he's always there to listen and he basically possesses all the qualities i listed above. and we do have similar interest, like we both love soccer and play on a team together. There wasnt really a pivotal point, it just happened with time.
ReplyDeleteI am not sure about the term BFF, but certain people do come to mind when the term “brother” is used. This is a very short list for me. I like to think I have many friends, but very few would be deemed BFF -- if I were to ever use that term. Haha. The issues mentioned in the topic are all important, and so are the pivotal moments. It is an accumulation of these moments when you can examine the existing relationships; however both sides must be looked at. Through the difficult times, friends rise to the occasion or fall away. If they do not meet expectations, no fault should be given, just understand the situation and try to grow from it. I heard someone say most friendships can be like the seasons. As time progresses people change; sometimes we grow closer together, sometimes further apart, and usually to circle back around if circumstances allow.
ReplyDeleteOne friend in particular, tends to come to mind the most. He is away for college, so activities are limited, but we hold a lot in common. I would say we have been through a lot, and we have always been capable of relying on each other for all kinds of support. He and I both consider loyalty to be very important traits. We always do our best to take care of those close to us. With that comes respect, acceptance, trust, etc. Good friends are hard to find. But when found, it is worth the effort to maintain such a relationship.
To me all friendships begin with similarities and being close (same school, work, neighborhood,...). The qualities that I care most in a friend are loyalty, honesty, how they show respect to people and their way of thinking, how they treat their close family.
ReplyDeleteI have few friends in Brazil that I know I can count on. And even though we go for months sometimes without talking, whenever we do it is if the time has never passed! Here in US I just recently became friends with a nice group of "girls" (majority in their 30's :)). One of them i can consider a good friend. The funny thing about this group is that we are all foreigners without our families!! It's also funny to think that even if I've been living in San Antonio for a little more than 3 years, and have met friendly people, I don't have any American friend! It maybe be just hard to connect!
One person who I Consider a true friend of mine is a person who I have been cool with sense Elementary. We basically grew up together, lived together you name it. He is like a brother and a person I know will have my back no matter what.
ReplyDeleteI think the biggest thing that makes a good friendship is trust and know a person will be there when you need them most. As far as my friend, I think the biggest thing that strengthen our friendship was when he didn't have a place to live and me and my family let him move in with us. I even gave up my bed and slept on the couch, until we finally got bunk beds (we were in junior high...lol)
A friendship is truly a realationship in process lol...my best friend first words were hey Ramirez jump in the water with ur m16 and swim. If u drown ill save you..now put this over ur head n fall back...I met my bff backwards, I had to literally trust her then we talked over period of time. Never really chatted a storm but slowly found out we have stuff in common. Are friend work because in some area that we lack one of us are weak, so we encourage each other at all levels..a good friendships is when we can share thoughts without speaking. Fall and your friend is there to not just pick you up, but shows you different ways how to pick ur self up. We can also pick out each mistakes and fix them..friendship can mean lots of thing but to me honest, caring, funny, yet still be a hardass, and be like you but better so you can stand next to ur friend and reach all levels. Having goals also if not I feel that's old friends will hold you back. It may be an odd friendship but at the end it works. Friends are family one picks up on the way in life.and there has to just be a understanding on things. Agree to disagree
ReplyDeleteTo me friendships are very important. I think when you start making bonds and getting to know someone they have to be someone you can trust and be yourself with. Finding someone I can be my true self with is really important because well sometimes or maybe well all the time I come off quite weird and I love finding friends that won't think of me and some freak! They should be someone you can trust and tell anything to knowing there not going to judge you. It takes a lot for me to trust people however there have been a few who have been proven to be very loyal well maybe one.
ReplyDeleteMy best friend is Nicole and yeah we go through silly fights, but at the end of the day if I need her she is there. Thats hard for me to even say considering half of the other people I talk to I can't find when I really need them, but she has been there for me. I realized how much of a good friend she was not when I discovered she loved cats lol but whenever I got dumped and she would stay with me after school so I wouldn't be alone which lasted quite a long time. Sometimes I just needed her here so I could fall asleep because I was so sad and didn't want to be alone! (WOW) I'm realizing how nice that is!!! That to me is what showed me how awesome of a friend she is and those qualities are something I love in a friend. Knowing that no matter what happens they'll stay by your side no matter how long you need them to.
I would have to say my bff would have to be my oldest daughter, who now is 25 years of age. She has always been there from day one.(literally) She went to school with me and basically never left my side. The pivitol point in our realtionship came when she also became a teen mom. I stood by her side and understood the emotions and obstacles she would endure. She now has a family of her own but there isn't one day that we don't speak to each other. We have this joke that if we don't talk to each other everyday we start to go through withdrawals. I will always be her parent but also a friend when need be.
ReplyDeleteA good friend is someone who keeps your secrets, doesn't make everything you talk about or do a contest between the two of you, respects your relationships with others and doesn't invade them, likes your advice while you like theirs, they like you for you, are not your psychiatrist and you're not their's, agrees and DISAGREES with you, and supports you.
ReplyDeleteMy friend Brandi is my new BBF. She's very smart and savvy. She looks for fun things to do for free. Enjoys my jokes and makes great ones herself! Works hard and thinks and studies hard and plans, plans, plans! I love her so much! What strengthened our friendship was talking about religion, politics, and "that's what she said." lol
I have many friends: work friends, good friends, close friends, and BEST friends. They all share a lot of qualities, however "the elite" are the most trustworthy and loyal. We all share the same outlook on life and have a love for music, dancing, retro fashion, and sarcasm. I have been by their side through life changing events and they have been my support through some of the roughest times in my life. these events have helped to bond our friendships and shape who we have all become.
ReplyDeleteOverall, all of my friends are hilarious and awesome. :)
The one person I consider my BFF, and I know it sounds corney, is my wife, Trish. We've been together for eighteen years, married for only 9. She knows more about me than anyone else in the world. She's been there, by my side, through some of the worst times of my life. We've helped each other through life's problems, and shared the rewards together.
ReplyDeleteA pivotal moment... Trish, through the Texas court system, was sueing me for child support (a story for another time). When the prosecutor wanted to "Hammer" me for every red cent he could, Trish stepped up and told them back off. I've looked at her in a different light ever since.
What makes a good friend is trust,shared interest, emotional support, and acceptance, plus more. To be good friend is like having a job that you really enjoy and would never give up. My best friend of three is named Tamisha..I have been knowing her for at least nine years now and we love each other very much. When I have problems I can talk to her and she will let me know if I am right or wrong and would be completely honest with me and visversa. We have been through soo much together that when we do argue we get over it in literally 5 minutes and were back laughing..At times when she needs financial help she know I would give her my last even if its something she wants instead of really needs.What I really like about her is the fact that she is honest with me and she knows me to the point where she knows when I am lying about a situation trying to make myself seem innocent. We have played many sports together and admire the same interest at times except her clothing style is a little unique compared to mine. I love her and she will always be more then my best friend..
ReplyDeleteA moment that strengthened our friendship was when we were in high school and someone had said something bad about her and said that I had said it. She was mad at me but once I got my side across and told her I would never talk bad about her because that is not what friends do, we made up and she found out the truth in that story. Another time was when her parents kicked her out the house and no one wanted to take her in, I was the one that took her in for a few days until she made up with her parents. What makes our friendship strong is the fact that she knows I would do anything for her and I am always there for her..
Im fortunate to have many people in my life that are very close to me. One of the most important qualities are that I can confide in someone. I have learned when im upset the only way I know to feel better is to talk to people and get their insight in order for me to clear my thoughts. A good friend will always listen to me and give me practical advice and even point out when I am wrong. They do not jump to conclusions or judge. Bffs also know you better than anyone in the world and you dont have to worry about them judging you or acting stupid. You can always be yourself!
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ReplyDeleteI have a lot of friends, but I have very few close friends. The most important thing for me in a friendship is honesty, and knowing they will be there no matter what. my one true bff name is Shelly,we have the same interest but completely different taste, like we both love music but she likes pop i like alt rock,and so on but when I was in a abusive marriage and when i decided to leave him she moved back to Texas from Alaska so that i wouldn't be alone to me that's a true friend.
ReplyDeleteA best friend is trustworthy, accepting, understanding, easy to be around and values your friendship as much as you do. But you cant just have those qualities, having a best friend comes with experience. You have to have moments that over time develop into a friendship that is stronger than any others you have. I have best friend named Matt that I have been friends with since probably 5th or 6th grade. We have gone through a lot together, high school, girlfriends, parent struggles, partying, drugs, travels and more. The experiences we have had together have grown to become a friendship that resembles more of a sibling relationship than a friend relationship. A best friend is someone that backs you up in everything you do but will tell you when your acting out of line. I think it was more a chapter of our lives that made us best friends rather than one pivotal moment. our first year in high school was tough on both of us but we kept our spirits up just by hanging out all the time and making the best of awkward situations. It gave me someone I could depend on the rest of high school and that was really important in my life. We also had a friendship reawakening in college when we found out what is like to live away from the house. Without each other we might have gotten into a lot of trouble with all the fun we were having. However, we were able to keep each other grounded and stable just because we cared about what was going on in each others lives. A best friend can carry you through rough times and and support you in good times and vice versa.
ReplyDeleteMy best friend has been in my life for 16 years...we have weathered many storms. Always the first to offer an ear or shoulder and last to leave when times were darkest. Trust is never an issue and loyalty is without question. The tough truths are always brought to my attention without being judgemental. Years, ex-fiances, self-reinventions, careers, a dozen cars, a trio of children and marriage have come or come and gone....and my buddy is still here. I suspect we will be around each other as long as we can have it this way.
ReplyDeleteWill I do have a BFF and we have been friends ever senses the first grade. The aspects of a good friend are that of one who is always there for you. Someone that you can talk to and are not afraid they will think different of you after. A true friend is someone that you can joke with and always trust when you need help. I believe that everyone has their own way that they inter act with their best friends and so do I. If you would spend just a few minutes with my best friend and me, we would think to yourself that we hate each other. But infected that’s just how our friendship is, we curse each other and slap backs but that’s just use. However the funniest thing that made our friendship even better is that in 5th grade we got into a fest fight. While we were suspended for three days we talked to each other on the phone and joked about the fight saying “I kicked your ass, and you know it”. To this day we are still best of friends and still hit each other’s back and curse at each other when a simple “Hi” would do. My dad once told my mom and my best friend’s mom that “If Joey is ever put in jail and you can’t find Jacob just call the police station and you’ll find Jacob sitting next to Joey in the same sail”. I guess that best describes our friendship.
ReplyDeleteIn my life, I have had a lot of besf friends, in different moments. I think a best friend is a person you can count on any time, when you are happy, when you are sad, when you are in problems, when you are in succes in your life. A bff is that person who come to you in bad times, and in good times without being called and you identify your self with her/him in different ways.
ReplyDeleteMy best friends are like sisters for me and I love them.
Well to me my best friends are my family. I don't have much of a "real" family, so i love my best friends as if they were my blood sisters. My best friends is amazing, she's such a strong person. She's always watching out for me and supporting me in all i do, even if it's not the right thing. She never judges me or looks down on me. We don't even have to say something and we can already read each other. I've had a few best friends but not to many have last. So in best friends i look for trust, and good hearts. I'm done investing my time in bad hearts! If i feel someone is sketchy then i won't even let them into my heart. I'd rather have a few great friends then 1107171 bad friends. I'm so grateful for all my close friends i have, i love them all differently in there own way.
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