Feeling Stressed Out? Studies show that how you deal with stress may be dependent on whether you are a male or a female. Read the study done on how men and women differ in how they deal with stress. Men- fight or flight vs. Women- tend and affiliate. Tell us what you think and how you tend to deal with stress. Do you agree with the study's findings? Are you a typical male or female in your responses to stress?
I somewhat agree with the study in the research article. However with the women’s tend and befriend methods of working out stress, I think that that is a little nicer in describing what I experience women do in stressful situation. Most women that I have notice in stressful situation normally attack straight out; they use their wide verity of verbal knowledge and use it to its fullest. And only then after they have realest everything inside them they then become the “tend and befriend” state of mind. I do agree that the human body is somehow in effect with the way that we handle stress. Female estrogen and male testosterone hormone appears to enhance the way we act. For myself I tend to move away from a stressful situation, or even try to avow them at all. I do have a place that I do like to fly to when I’m stressed, just a quite place to think and regain my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteUh yeah. When I'm stressing I find at least one person to talk about it with. But I don't take it out on them. Typical female, yep.
ReplyDeleteummm i mean i guess in general that might be true but its not like that for me. i like to talk things out too. i dont automatically fight or flight. im big on communication and knowing how i feel and how someone else might feel when stressed. I can just hit the gym and get my mind straight or go talk to my best friend.
ReplyDeleteI agree..I'd much rather talk about things.However, when I'm stressed I guess I don't really I let it bottle up which probably isn't good? I like to listen to music that helps and running..talking to someone always helps too! I sometimes forget that its stress thought if that makes sense and just keep trying to get past it till I realize oh crap I'm super stressed out then deal with it.
ReplyDeleteI do agree with the article. Most (not all) women i know respond that way to stress. Most will fight initially, then quickly move to tend or befriend mode. I act more to the fight side of the typical flight or fight response.
ReplyDeleteAh, yes. Some of you bring up good points. If there's no one to talk to I unfortunately let my feelings get internalized. I listen to music and I turn to food too. And I find myself talking back to some negative/stupid stories on the radio.
ReplyDeletei guess the article is somewhat true but for me i rather just walk my dogs and just things to myself i like to be alone. i see how other girls like to come to me and tell me their stress but i dont mind helping.
ReplyDeleteUmm I agree to a certain extent . I do see and understand it, but I think for me it is based on the situation as well as the environment.. who I am with. Its nothing new what these people are stating this behavior can be seen in almost all other mammals. Its still good topic and would love to blog. But I'm just drained
ReplyDeleteI like to believe I have balanced reactions when dealing with stressful circumstances. Sometimes, I find myself weighing the cost and benefits of a situation. If the gain is not worth the effort, I find myself likely to move a different direction. If the outcome is worth the effort, then I will do what it takes to achieve that position. I found the article very interesting. I did not think the past studies researched only men, attributing all human nature to fight or flight. Reading through the chemical reactions also brought light to the findings; letting us know biology accounts for a lot. What caught my attention most was the outlets sexes choose; men more often than not choosing something unhealthy. The research brought new reason for the 7 years a woman is expected to outlive a man…so I guess it is not just the stress incurred from women…
ReplyDeleteI agree with the study as far as the norm is concerned. I, myself, identify with both methods of dealing with stress. I suppose it comes down to what the situation is and the time allowed to correct the issue. I guess - now that I think about it - I do the typical female coping, etc...rather than just "flight". Depending on the issue, certain things can bring out the fight or flight in me :)
ReplyDeleteInteresting. I've been extremely overwhelmed lately to the point that I have broken out with cold sores (gross I know :(
ReplyDeleteHowever interstingly enough, I have spent a lot of time with Jess through being on the speech team and I have found her to be extremely comforting in my tough time. I've laid my head on her shoulder, she's rubbed my back, even Leo has given me a massage and I believe Eboni and I have held hands a time or two LOL. I think its just the nurturing part of us women, that when were stressed we seek comfort and therefore comfort others.
I deal with stress in a much different way. I have disorders that come along with my stress so I am under a doctors care. I have couseling sessions and medications i must take to function in pubic. But I do find its ok to let off some stream every now and then in a positive way. I learn by watching the innocence of my two younger children.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the study. I can relate to the fight or flight pattern in males.
ReplyDeleteThe study seems to be generally correct from what I have noticed. I would have to say how I react to stress is situational depending on the environment I'm in. Work or school may be a different reaction to stress than at the gym or at home. I tend to take a step back from a stressful situation and want to assess before just reacting. On the most part I would say my reactions seem to be typical.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the study to a certain point. I deal with stress by talking to a goodfriend of my mother.Depending on if its school or personal stress is different ways I handle the situations.
ReplyDeleteI agree with the study in a way. I know from personally experience that social norms play a role in preventing men from talking to others about stressful situations.
ReplyDeleteWhile this is just my opinion from my experiences in life, Women can talk to other women and relatives about all there problems and issues. Men can to a certain extent, but quickly it makes them look weak to others if they bring stuff up continously.
For example, I had alot of bad stuff happen at once and was under a great deal of stress. Sometimes I wish I could talk out all of my problems with my friends but at the same time I know most will tell me to just man up and quit complaining (without given any real advise). LOL
So with that in mind, I just go shoot basketball by myself, play solitaire of sudoku, or do some type of project around my house in an attempt to relieve stress.
I agree that some women react that way but i would image that some men respond that way as well.
ReplyDeleteI tend to react to stress in the "male" sense. i confront whats bothering me and if i cant work it out i just leave it alone
I can see some support points in my life to this research. I do look for some comfort when I am stressed in my family and friends.
ReplyDeleteNow depending on my PMS level, I'll cope with stress in a fight-or-flight mode.
I agree with the study in somehow, but I think the people deal with stress in different ways depending on their own history, the role models they had when they grow up, the character yhey have, etcetera. When I have stress I like to talk to a friend I think can give me a good advise and help me to overcome the stress, but it is important to chose the right friend, some body really care of you and mature, so the advise can be good. Also I solve my stress praying the holly rosary, or the creed of my religion and a find the peace. Another way I use to do is trying hard to solve the issue is stressing me and if I can't, try to accept the situation and turn to another thought.
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